All human beings are alone. No other person will completely feel like we
do, think like we do, act like we do. Each of us is unique, and our
aloneness is the other side of our uniqueness. The question is whether
we let our aloneness become loneliness or whether we allow it to lead us
into solitude. Loneliness is painful; solitude is peaceful. Loneliness
makes us cling to others in desperation; solitude allows us to respect
others in their uniqueness and create community.
Letting our aloneness grow into solitude and not into loneliness is a
lifelong struggle. It requires conscious choices about whom to be with,
what to study, how to pray, and when to ask for counsel. But wise
choices will help us to find the solitude where our hearts can grow in
love.
Henri
Nouwen
Silence,
Simplicity & Solitude: A Complete Guide to Spiritual Retreat
